Why I Write

Signature of Kahlil Gibran

Signature of Kahlil Gibran (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

“Half of what I say is meaningless, but I say it so that the other half may reach you.”

–from “The Forerunner” (1920)
   Kahlil Gibran
 

"Half of what I say is meaningless, but I say it so that the other half may reach you."</p><br /><br /><br />
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--from "The Forerunner" (1920)

 
Why do I write?
I write because I feel this need inside of myself to express who I am.
 
I do not know who will read me…or if anyone at all will read my words. I do not know if the words I write will have any effect on anyone or on the world.
 
I do know that when I write, I feel like I have a purpose. I feel like I am alive and it gives me courage to be myself. I feel less threatened by the world.
 
My passion for life seems to get in the way of being received.  I know I am an intense person. I can get very passionate about what I am saying or feeling.  Even if I say nothing, people who know me a bit, feel my passion through my being.  I feel that some people fear me because of it. This saddens me. I have no desire to hurt anyone. In fact, quite the opposite…I feel I want to protect others.  I find the only way I can do this successfully is through my words in the hope that some of what I write may help to give light to the world…to bring love into the world.  Some people are threatened by my words…they think I may be attacking them…maybe some days I am saying what I think needs to be said—but I try intensely to only say or write things that are the truth and need to be said to help them be more free…more open.  So perhaps it is good that I stick to writing, because then one can decide to read it or not.  I find even in my attempt to write, depending on the person and their mood and feelings, I may be bringing them pain.  The perceptions of the individual will color what they read.
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My perceptions color what I write.
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Today I wrote about my writing to a dear friend, whom I have never met in person.  I remarked: “No, the “PedalPushingThoughts@wordpress.com blog is a diversion so I stop thinking about love.  I thought I needed a second blog so that I did not write just about love.
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This  very special Someone said to me today: “giggle over laugh out loud over smile…..Jane, you never write about anything else But Love…..giggle. “
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I write to communicate and to feel less lonely in this world of seven billion people.
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Perhaps one small phrase may encourage someone to give love to someone else.
 

Confidence

asking questions is important

confidence

confidence (Photo credit: glsims99)

I realize that the more I accept this fact, that I do not know everything and do not have the answers to everything, the more I learn.

I realize that fear is a monster that appears to reside in us and can prevent us from being more confident.  Fear leads us to thinking we have to know it and understand it all immediately.  Fear brings with it the worry that we will not be accepted if we do not know it all. Fear is a false god.

It is so much easier to live not having to carry the burden of “knowing it all.”

It frees our spirit and helps us to live more honestly, I believe.  I thought I was open to many people and to many things.  Then I have realized, how uncomfortable I am when I am confronted with a new thought or a different way of thinking.  Then I have said to myself: “Wow, Jane, wake up! And smell the roses! Listen to the other’s opinion–you might learn something!”

Why would I be so uncomfortable, if I was not filled with fear? Then the fear takes over, and I wear the mask of confidence knowing nothing!

An illusion!

To truly listen is an art.  It means taking away all judgment and allowing the speaker to come into your heart.  It means not trying to solve anything for that person.  To listen means to listen.  Not to have answers ready for them…to BE there for them…to BE there with them in their struggle…to BE present…to BE a present. Those are beautiful words but they sure are not easy to live!

Then I was confronted with another illusion! I do not judge others–do I? Oh, I tell you, when you begin to think…it just goes around and around like a merry-go-round! And confidence does ride along the fence with judgment.  When we make a judgment about something, we are making a decision about it, and then we feel more confident with our judgment and go on our merry way! Until—someone comes along and blows our entire judgment to the winds, as happened recently to me regarding myself.

Speaking about feelings, I proudly said, “Well, I am only hardest on myself, not others.! Someone said to me, “Well, we usually do to others what we do to ourselves.” The really ticked me off—dang—another thing I thought I had down pat! I thought no one can get me on that point.  But since Tuesday evening I have been thinking about just that statement.  Usually when I spend that much time thinking about something someone has said to me, I know there is a truth in there somewhere.

Another idea to look at and it did not make me feel very comfortable.

I have been thinking, “Yes, this is true…I am very hard on myself…and then perhaps I am hard on others in very subtle ways….maybe in subtle ways I do judge others. Maybe I am judging others when I am so darn worried about what they are thinking about me, when in fact, as another friend, pointed out, “Jane, it is NONE of your business what they are thinking! That is their business!” So, in fact, when I waste my moments thinking about the opinions of others about me— I am judging them and harshly…because most of the time I am thinking, I am not a very good person…so then, I think they are thinking that also! That is quite judgmental! And not at all nice, that I think they are viewing me as someone less than good. What kind of a friend am I? I am not accepting them as the gracious person that they are!  WOW!

The conclusion from all of this is, I need to accept and love myself so that I can truly love and accept others.  I need to accept the fact that I do not know everything and that it is quite alright! I just need to love me as I am…listen more and speak less.  But then, what would I have to blog about? LOL

Confidence

Confidence (Photo credit: wherefishsing)